Thursday, April 28, 2005

Sleep is the talk of the hour

Yesterday, Art moved Eva's rocking chair in to the living room. The thought being, when Eli wakes, I'd just rock him/hold him while screaming until he was either asleep or until the appropriate time to wake up. Eva loved hearing this plan. She's ready for Eli to sleep in her room and I think she isa bit jealous that Eli gets milk throughout the night and she only gets water.

So, for the last two nights I've managed to nurse Eli and then place him in his crib and wait until he falls asleep on his own. Last night he did not wake until 4:40 am!!!!!! whew. I went to him and he liked being rocked for a little while and then put up a strong protest for a good 20 minutes. Alas, the magic number arrived, 5:30 am, he was free to nurse but not to fall asleep. He was fine with this plan. Well, the crying woke Eva and she opened the door to our room. I jumped up to let her know where she could find Daddy, she immediately said, "Eli need to be in the rocking chair!" I laughed and reassured her with a kiss and let her know tha,t in fact, Eli had done his time in the rocking chair. Satisfied with this answer, she trotted off.

Monday, April 25, 2005

Sleep is such a slippery slope Posted by Hello

Sleep baby sleep

We're ready for yet one more iteration of Eli's sleep training. We've been trying to wean Eli from his 3:00 am feeding, which leads to a long morning of nursing. Unsuccessful up to this point, Eli's will to keep this feeding in his schedule - has won over our persistence. Art successfully rid him of his 12:00 and 2:00 feeding by sleeing with him for a week. But Eli's perseptive ways, coupled with his desire to see mommy, has him waiting up until mama comes in at 4:30am. Daddy's tired, Mama's tired and Eli is starting to get tired too. Yesterday, Daddy declared a solution to the problem which lead him on-line looking for hotels for me and Eva to stay for two nights. My gut resisted this extreme measure, although as fun as a girl's night away sounded. Of course, EVERYONE thinks I'm crazy for prolonging the inevitalbe. Friends have urged me to let him cry it out, sent article on methods, and offered to help. It's gotten to the point, I'm a bit embarrased to say I've not slept in 2 1/2 years. Today, I asked Lalla, our parenting teacher, for some advice. She explained, Eli (at 18 months) is very aware what he wants and that nursing him to sleep leaves such a strong feeling with him that it is all he wants when he wakes up. She suggested Art put him to sleep. I got all weepy at the thought of it. As I asked her a question, I got all choked-up. Just last night, after nursing Eli to sleep, I emerged from his room telling Art how sweet the entire process is. After Eva and Eli read a book with mommy, Eli and mommy read one or two more books. I then put him down which makes him giggle. We play a game as I turn our the light and then I sing to him as he settles down while nursing. His body goes from spastic movements to mere twiches as his eyes close. Sometimes I have to say, "it's night time" then he closes his eyes and slow things down. I love hearing his breathing pick up as his right and left hands fidget. I hold them until they calm down. At this time his breathing gets a little louder until he takes in a big sigh and his breath slows down. He is asleep. I can leave him, he may roll over, sometimes looking up at me but goes to sleep with a gentle touch to his hand. Alas, this is the end of a long sleep history between mama and Eli. Just writing this down makes me see how crazed I am - let him do it on his own, Jan!

So tonight it begins, Daddy will take charge of the night time routine. I welome being back with Eva. I've missed being a part of her night time routine. We will see how it goes!

Eva made the jump to her big girl bed in preparation for Eli sleeping in her old crib. She has patiently waited for three months. She's finally given up on asking everynight, "Eeii sleep here?" only to hear, "Eli still cries at night, when he sleeps all night he can sleep with you." Last month, Eva responeded to this saying, "Eeii cries at night, I'll give him a bottle of water..." She's ready!

Saturday, April 23, 2005

Eva is getting really good at balancing on the log along the path in Glen Park Canyon. Posted by Hello

On one of our Family Wednesdays, Eli successfully finds a puddle in Glen Park Canyon. Posted by Hello

Eli and Eva play by their E. Posted by Hello

Eva, sporting her new pink panties, shows off her grape jelly bean. Posted by Hello

Friday, April 22, 2005

Potty progress

It has been a month since writing but much has been happening here at 127 Randall Street…as I speak, Eva Gray is walking down the hall by-herself, panties around her ankles ready to pee-pee in the potty. Such excitement around this recent change in life. Wednesday, while we were in the back yard with Shu Shu Eva declared she had to go to the potty. I brought her potty in to the back yard and low and behold – she used it. I promptly went upstairs and got her a “jelly bean” – a fruit chew. She demanded Eli get one too. No sooner had I returned from a retrieving Eli’s, she’d gone again. By bedtime, I think I counted 4 tokens. Whew. The next morning, she pee peed again in the potty and several time in the afternoon. The headliner of this report comes in that while Eva was talking to Shu at the breakfast table, I heard some business taking place in her diaper, I asked if she wanted to poop in the potty and yes, she did. And yes she did. The strangest thing is she now announces everything as, “ mom, help me with my panties, go and check mom – gone is mommy…..I hope not forever…